How to Respond When a Loved One Says They're Leaving Rehab Early Recovery from alcohol or drug addiction is not an easy process. It takes all of one\u2019s focus and energy to learn how to live a substance-free life, to detox safely and to work through the emotions that bubble up in the process. Residential rehab facilities provide the\u00a0perfect environment for a recovering addict\u00a0to get a fresh start in a safe,\u00a0healthy and supportive environment. However, many residential facilities have strict rules. For example, some do not allow you to visit or talk to your loved one for a certain amount of time. Others may prohibit phone calls but allow you to write letters. There are a variety of reasons for such limited contact, but the primary reason is to prevent damaging arguments from occurring during a time when both you and your loved one are feeling vulnerable. When your friend or family member is experiencing withdrawal, they may feel depressed, angry or just plain moody as a side effect. A rehab facility provides a safe space for her to express these feelings and to work through them. A tense conversation with you might have the opposite effect, as much as you\u2019d like to think otherwise. Visiting Your Loved One Still, eventually you will be able to visit your loved one, participate in joint counseling sessions and speak over the phone. This will happen once your loved one is more positive and seems to be making good progress. However, it\u2019s possible that your loved one will still be depressed when you talk to her. They may be experiencing homesickness. They may be angry and uncommitted to the recovery process. No matter what her exact reason, they might say something to the effect of, \u201cCome get me right now!\u201d Perhaps they says they have already recovered, even though there are still weeks left to go in their substance abuse treatment program. Or they might say that doesn\u2019t like the facility and just wants to come home. They might even be flat-out angry with you and threaten to never speak to you again unless you get her out of there. In fact, they may cajole you in any way they can in order to make you feel guilty enough to meet her demands. They are simply experiencing one of the many challenging stages of recovery. Getting through it and sticking to the treatment program is tantamount. So how should you respond? Stay Positive No matter how down-in-the-dumps, angry, or upset your loved one is, don\u2019t mirror her attitude. It\u2019s important to stay positive and to express hope for the future. Remind her that things will get better. The first stages of recovery are the hardest and most intense, so things can only look up from there. Note how far your loved one has already come and encourage her to keep moving forward. Remind her that you will be waiting for her when they complete their rehab program. But they needs to complete the program to understand how to live life as a recovering addict or alcoholic. Also, remind them that they are with addiction healthcare professionals who can help addicts or alcoholics detox safely and navigate the stages of recovery. These caregivers can help to address any symptoms or concerns, so encourage your loved one to turn to them for assistance. Acknowledge Your Loved One\u2019s Feelings The desire to come home early from rehab may come from a number of emotions. These include fear, resentment, mental or physical pain, and even insecurity. Try to understand which of these feelings is motivating your loved one to give up or to come home early. Be careful not to put words in her mouth, acknowledge her and show you understand how scary or painful rehab can be. Tell them that you will be visiting as soon as you can, and you can spend some time together then. In the meantime, you will not be taking them home early. Stand Your Ground Don\u2019t give in. When your loved one does come home after fully completing rehab, you will need to establish boundaries. They may have inadvertently enabled your loved one when they were actively abusing drugs or alcohol. Firm rules will help both of you from regressing to this potentially damaging relationship. Just like your loved one, you also need to learn a new way to live life post-rehab. This means\u00a0standing your ground and employing tough love when needed. Start now by not bringing your loved one home early from rehab, staying positive and being supportive in healthy, constructive ways. Research shows that people with addiction have a\u00a0better chance of staying sober when helped by a loved one. Call Promises Treatment Centers at today to get help if your loved one is thinking about leaving rehab early.