The Four Agreements is a set of principles and guidelines for living a healthy, fulfilling life with integrity and accountability. Some people use it in tandem with the 12 Steps. Others may find it to be a helpful alternative to the 12 Steps. What Are the Four Agreements? \u201cThe Four Agreements\u201d is a book based on ancient Toltec Wisdom and written by best-selling author Don Miguel Ruiz. Popular and influential, this book asserts that the way people think and act has everything to do with \u201cagreements\u201d they make with themselves. These agreements could also be called belief systems or entrenched attitudes. While people are drinking or drugging, their attitudes are often negative or self-serving. The Four Agreements offers suggestions for alternative ways to live, think and speak that are more in line with a healthy and happy lifestyle. These are the Four Agreements outlined by Don Miguel Ruiz: Be Impeccable With Your Word \u2013 The first agreement addresses denial, one of the hallmarks of drug and alcohol addiction. Addiction is sometimes accompanied by dishonesty, manipulation, omissions and obfuscations. Being impeccable with one\u2019s speech means that they say what they mean and they mean what they say. This can increase an individual\u2019s self-respect and improve their relationships with others that may have been damaged by an addiction. Don\u2019t Take Anything Personally\u00a0\u2013 Addiction can be isolating and fuel self-centric thoughts and feelings of guilt, shame or anger. Loved ones\u2019 needs can feel like assaults on one\u2019s well-being, and the person with addiction may interpret their concerns as personal attacks. In recovery, learning to own one\u2019s feelings and take responsibility for their behavior can boost confidence. Accepting feedback, criticism or concerns from others without being triggered to react defensively helps people enjoy better relationships with the people around them. Don\u2019t Make Assumptions \u2013 It can be easy to make negative assumptions when an individual is struggling with addiction. Using drugs or alcohol can start a downward spiral in which they disappoint people, feel badly about themselves and behave poorly out of guilt, shame, depression, and anger. If their negative assumptions turn out to be on target, they keep making them. This agreement encourages people to stop making assumptions and open themselves up to other possibilities. Listening to others and understanding their actions and motivations can take the place of guesswork and encourage more honest and productive interactions. Always Do Your Best\u00a0\u2013 Living with integrity and having a healthy sense of self-respect go hand in hand. Being able to say to oneself and the world, \u201cI did my best\u201d can help clients feel better about themselves and increase self-esteem. It can provide a healthy kind of \u201chigh\u201d and help people enjoy recovery and a clean and sober lifestyle. Don't Wait to Get Help Recovery is possible, no matter how lost you feel. Our 12-step programs or an alternative method can be the key to completing a successful and effective recovery. Learn more about the Four Agreements and how we incorporate them at Promises Treatment Centers, call us at today!