I Think I’m in Love With My Best Friend
Help! I’m a Married Woman in Love With Female Best Friend
Any kind of potential cheating situation can be tricky and fraught with complications. But when you realize that you always thought you were straight, but now you may be in love with your best friend, the situation gets an added layer of complexity. You have two questions to answer: Is your sexuality changing? Are you really in love with your best friend?
This will take some soul-searching, especially since you are in a relationship and pursuing anything further with your best friend would mean committing an infidelity. It might be a good idea to take some time away from your friend so you can think clearly. You might also consider consulting with a professional therapist to help you sort through your feelings. When you’re ready, talk to your partner about what you’re going through and come up with decisions for what to do next.
Can Emotional and Mental Cheating Tear a Relationship Apart?
Maybe you think that you can carry on your relationship with your best friend without telling your partner or admitting your feelings to your friend. This will be challenging, especially if you really are in love with your friend, and it would mean living a lie. By carrying on your friendship, you will be having a type of emotional affair. You are spending time with that friend because you feel an emotional need. He or she fills an emotional gap that you have.
By carrying on a relationship that has become more than a friendship, whether you two have become physically involved or not, means that you are emotionally cheating. You are betraying your partner by developing this emotional relationship with someone else that goes beyond ordinary friendship. It may seem innocent to you, but it can ruin your relationship with your partner by weakening your emotional and physical intimacy. You are keeping something important from your partner and that is cheating. There is no such thing as a casual, emotional affair in which no one gets hurt.
If you think you might be falling for your best friend, you have a decision to make. To carry on as if nothing is wrong means cheating on your partner. You could cut off your friendship. You could explore the possibility of leaving your partner for your friend. Whatever you do, cheating is not a good option. Communicate with your friend and your partner and work with a therapist to help you decide what to do next.