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What to Do When You Suspect Your Spouse Is Cheating Online
Catching the man you love committing an infidelity is devastating and heartbreaking. Cheating is getting easier all the time with cyber infidelity through texting, social media, chat rooms and websites devoted to the act of infidelity. If you think that your partner has been cheating online, you may be unsure what to do. Should you troll his social media pages? Should you check his phone for incriminating texts? Or should you confront him with your suspicious?
Is It Cheating If It’s Online?
Often times these days cheating online becomes a gray area. Different people have different ideas about what constitutes cheating if it isn’t happening in the real world. Some people say that anything online is fair game because it isn’t real. Others go to another extreme and say that contacting an ex on social media is cheating.
Experts give a very clear and simple definition of cheating whether it occurs online or in the physical, real world. Committing an infidelity means betraying your partner and keeping it a secret. This means that emotional infidelity counts, as does online cheating. If something your partner has done with someone else was either emotionally or physically intimate and was kept a secret from you, it betrays your trust and counts as cheating.
Investigating Internet Infidelity
If you are unsure whether your spouse is doing something online that he shouldn’t be, there are a number of ways you can find out more information. You can check in on his social media pages and check his private messages. You can even install apps that track your partner’s movements and even track his keyboard so you have a record of everything he types.
While you can investigate your spouse in this way, it’s not necessarily the best approach. What if you find out he hasn’t cheated? You’ll feel terrible that you didn’t trust him. On the other hand, you don’t want to be taken advantage of or let your naivety get you hurt. Think carefully before you use these investigative approaches.
Talk To Your Partner
The best way to deal with your suspicions of cheating is to talk to your spouse. Open communication makes for a healthier relationship. Tell him how you feel and why you have suspicions. Don’t approach the conversation in an accusatory manner. Simply talk about your feelings, your fears, and your concerns. Ask him to be open with you so that if there are issues, you can work through them.
If your spouse does admit to cheating, you can now take steps forward. Internet flirtations, social media connections, cheating online and texts that cross the line are not easy to get over. They hurt and they cause damage. But with the help of a couples’ counselor, you can regain trust and rebuild your relationship together.