Being addicted to love sounds pleasant enough, but it can have seriously negative consequences. Love addiction prevents you from finding real love, establishing healthy relationships and enjoying your life to the fullest. Understanding love addiction and taking concrete steps to change the way you interact in relationships will help you move forward. You may even want to consider getting the help of a professional therapist in order to start breaking love addiction habits.
What Is Love Addiction?
Love addiction means being addicted to the feelings associated with being in love, with being infatuated, with being desired, with the myth of romantic love or with any number of other romantic interactions and behaviors. Being in love, or thinking you’re in love, feels good. It’s natural to desire that good feeling, but the initial high you get from a partner doesn’t last forever. To chase that feeling means never settling into a long-term, satisfying relationship. On the other hand, you may be the kind of love addict who attaches to one person and becomes addicted to him. When you do this, you end up settling for a relationship that is not right for you and is possibly even harmful. You feel like you constantly need this person. Your emotional state depends on him and your relationship. This too will prevent you from finding a relationship that is rewarding.
Change Your Attitude, Change Your Behaviors
Once you understand what love addiction is and how your thinking and behaviors reflect that obsession, you will have an “ah-ha” moment. Realize that the way you have been approaching love isn’t working for you and that change is necessary for love addiction recovery. Decide to shift your attitude from relying on someone else or the feeling of being in love to be happy toward making your own happiness. Decide that time on your own will help you rediscover yourself and what makes you happy without love. A change in attitude isn’t easy, but once you start to change your thinking, changing your behavior will be easier. If your relationship isn’t working, talk about making changes or decide to end it. If you are constantly seeking out a new relationship, take some time off and stop dating for a while. Spend more time with friends and family and indulge in non-romantic love.
Get Professional Help
If you realize that your behaviors are holding you back, yet you can’t seem to change them, you may need professional guidance. Love addiction therapy with an experienced professional can help you learn to make those important changes in your life and in your relationships. Sometimes we just can’t go it alone. Find a professional to help you make real changes, and you can break your love addiction for good.