When you\u2019ve come to that point in your drug- or alcohol-using life when you\u2019re maybe thinking about getting clean and sober, ask yourself why it is that you really want to do this. While some of the following reasons may not apply to you, they are the top reasons for many others. They are the spark that ignited the desire to get clean and sober. Are they good ones? Are they good enough for you? Let\u2019s take a look. \tStop the Pain \u2013 All I wanted to do was stop the pain. Everything was just too painful without drinking. Sometimes I did pills and alcohol to really make the pain go away faster. When the effects wore off, all I could think about was the pain, so I drank and took more pills. But the pain came back even worse. After many years of this, I decided the only way to really stop the pain was to stop drinking and using pills completely. I realized the pain in my life was mostly caused by my drinking and drugs. I had to stop it. That\u2019s why I quit. \tI Want to Change \u2013 When I look back on what my life has been and who I\u2019ve become, I see that it\u2019s not a pretty picture. I\u2019ve let people down, most of all myself. It got to the point where I couldn\u2019t even stand to look at myself in the mirror because of all the lies and hurtful things I\u2019ve done because of my drinking\/using. Nobody else is forcing me to change. I\u2019m the one that\u2019s driving my desire to stop doing drugs and alcohol. I know it won\u2019t be easy, but I really want to be clean and sober \u2013 and stay that way. \tRegain My Self-Esteem \u2013 I felt worthless, no good to anyone, least of all to myself. If anybody asked me to do something, I knew I couldn\u2019t do it. I didn\u2019t have it in me. Somewhere over weeks or months or whatever, it got so that no one ever asked me to do anything. They probably knew how worthless and unreliable I was. The big thing is that I knew it \u2013 and I found that I really didn\u2019t like it. And I knew the cause was my drinking, which had gotten way out of control quite some time ago. The only way I\u2019d regain my self-esteem would be to get clean and sober. One day I just woke up and said, that\u2019s it, I\u2019m quitting drinking for good. Then I got help, because I knew I couldn\u2019t do it alone. \tBe a Good Parent \u2013 My children were suffering \u2013 something I was increasingly unable to see in my fog of drinking and drugs. I don\u2019t mean I physically abused them, although I did raise my hand a few times. But I yelled at them constantly, called them horrible names. I forgot to do their laundry, missed their school events, didn\u2019t wake them up for school, didn\u2019t compliment their successes. I didn\u2019t even realize what was going on with them. Frankly, I didn\u2019t care. I was so wrapped up in my own cycle of getting high, coming down, and feeling the need to get high again that my kids just got left behind. One day when I wasn\u2019t too high I saw my youngest one crying and the oldest trying to comfort her, trying to be the parent. I looked around and the house was a mess, a pigsty, really. I was dirty, hadn\u2019t showered in days, and I suddenly thought, \u201cYou\u2019ve really messed up with your kids. What kind of a parent are you?\u201d That did it for me. I want to be a good parent, a role model, to my children, and that\u2019s what got me wanting to get clean and sober. \tBe a Loving Spouse \u2013 I don\u2019t know how my spouse put up with me all these years. I stole money, acted crazy in front of our friends, and generally made life miserable. Sex was either nonexistent after a while or I was too drugged or drunk to be much good. But my spouse stuck with me, telling me how much I was loved, how he\u2019d always love me. I wondered how he really could love me? How could anyone? When I\u2019d see other women look at him, I sometimes thought he\u2019d be better off with them than me. But then I remembered \u2013 I admit, I was somewhat sober at the time \u2013 how much he meant to me and how much I really wanted to be the wife and life partner for him that I promised when we got married. I decided I\u2019d get clean and sober so I could really give him all the love I have. It\u2019s not buried that deep inside that I can\u2019t find it again. And I\u2019m going to do it \u2013 not for him, but for me. \tStop Being Embarrassed \u2013 Everything I did was embarrassing. My family and friends couldn\u2019t stand having me around anymore because I\u2019d get too loud, rip off my clothes or say something really obnoxious or cruel. I\u2019d flirt with other people\u2019s spouses, male or female, it didn\u2019t matter, even though I knew it was wrong. I didn\u2019t care. When I drank, nothing mattered except what I wanted at the time, whatever that was. I\u2019d wake up passed out in some dirty bathroom in a bar with my head in the toilet, puke all over me, and all I\u2019d think about was where was my drink? One time I\u2019d really had too much after drinking nonstop for several days. The cleaning people found me still passed out in the john and found my purse. They tried to wake me up but I kept nodding off. They called some numbers in my address book. Guess what? No one would come get me. They ultimately called the police. When I sobered up enough to realize what happened, I decided right then and there that I was off drinking. I\u2019d do whatever it took so that I\u2019d never embarrass myself like that again. \tWant to Remember \u2013 I\u2019ve lost so many memories because of drugs and drinking. I missed so many birthdays of my children, so many of their milestone events. I can\u2019t even remember what happened last week, let alone a month or two ago. How could things have gotten this bad? I don\u2019t remember when just drinking a glass of wine was all I did. Who was that young girl that was once so innocent. Was it ever really me? Today I see my children and they\u2019re already so big! I want to be able to remember the rest of their growing up years. This means so much to me that I will quit drinking and drugs. I need to do it. I want to do it. I have to do it. If not, all my tomorrows will be gone, just like all my yesterdays. I can\u2019t let that happen. I\u2019m done with alcohol and drugs. \tBe Respected \u2013 When I was growing up, all us kids respected our parents. They were like God to us, and we loved them unconditionally. They worked hard and gave us all the love they had. In my life, as it is today, I don\u2019t have anyone that looks up to me, no one that respects me. Why? Because I\u2019m a piece of work, that\u2019s why. I don\u2019t do anything that would cause people to respect me. You can\u2019t rely on me, my word doesn\u2019t mean anything because I won\u2019t live up to it. My children ignore what I say because I\u2019m usually drunk or high. I\u2019ve even caught them laughing at me behind my back. God, I hate what I\u2019ve become! Somewhere I lost it all and let myself become this hateful, unreliable person. I want to be a person that others respect, that my children respect, that I respect. There\u2019s only one way to do that: I have to quit drinking and doing drugs. \tProvide For My Family \u2013 As a spouse and parent, I have a financial obligation to fulfill \u2013 and I\u2019ve failed miserably at that because of my habit. I haven\u2019t been able to keep a job, we\u2019ve lost our house, and my children won\u2019t be able to go to college. I can\u2019t see how my wife hasn\u2019t left me yet. I would, if I was her. It started just as a way to cope with stress, just a drink or a joint or two. Then it became more. Then it got to be all the time. Then I couldn\u2019t stop, and it cost us plenty. I want to be able to provide for my family again. I want to be the kind of person that can get and hold onto a good job. I want to regain my sense of purpose, to be proud of myself and who I am. Not the way I was. That\u2019s all in the past, starting today. I\u2019m getting off alcohol and crack. \tHave Friends Again \u2013 I used to have good friends. I used to be a good friend. That was all before drugs and drinking got to be my way of life. Now I have no one, no one except me, and that\u2019s a sorry excuse for life. Deep down inside, I know I\u2019ve got it in me to be the kind of person that can be a good friend, someone who has your back, someone who doesn\u2019t let you down. I\u2019ve got to find that inner me again, and the only way I can see to do that is to get clean and sober. After looking at these top reasons why others have decided to get clean and sober, you may find some that hit home with you. Maybe you have others that are a little different. But the one thing all of them have in common is the deep and genuine desire on the part of the abuser to get clean and sober. It takes commitment and discipline and a willingness to go through the tough times to come out on the other side. You have to want to, really want to, in order for it to work. Write down your reasons for getting clean and sober. Then act on them. Get help today so that you can have all your tomorrows free of drugs and alcohol. If you or somebody you know needs to get clean and sober, call to speak confidentially with a Promises Recovery Advisor.